Friday, 12 September 2014

Love/d On A Friday: Loving Myself As He Loves Me

 ... patient, kind.

We hear the definition of love in 1Corinthians 13:4 and we know that it is the definition of the way in which God loves us, of who He is even because He is love.  We know we can't love like that through our own efforts but that it is the love He can channel through us towards others.

I don't know about you but I have never thought of applying that passage, that definition of love to the way I feel towards, and treat, myself.

It would mean something like this:

Not to give up on MYSELF but be patient?

Not to be harsh and flaw finding but KIND to ME?

Not to criticise but encourage MYSELF?

Not to mock but respect MYSELF?

Not to turn away from but instead reach out to ME?

Not to strike but hug MYSELF?

Not to glare or sneer but smile at MYSELF?

Not to blame and hold a grudge but forgive, holding nothing against MYSELF?

Not to ignore and treat MYSELF with disdain but to employ some self care - actually look after ME?

Not to hold MYSELF to pressures, expectations and standards but be gentle?

Jesus says:
Just as I have loved you, so you too should love one another.
John 13:34  

But what about loving ourselves? Well, He also says:

Love your neighbour as yourself.  
Matthew 22:39

We are to love others the way Jesus has loved us and OURSELVES as we love them.

So quite simply:  we are to love ourselves the way Jesus loves us.


As ever, we need to rest in the knowledge that Jesus is the only one who has ever loved perfectly and has been punished for our inability to do so.  We won't do this well on our own I doubt - we need to receive God's love to love others and therefore to love ourselves.

We need love so desperately.  We need Jesus' love most of all.  But we can also 'not be a jerk' to ourselves and remind ourselves of the truth rather than being the first ones to pour lies all over us about things like how ugly and worthless and inferior and rubbish we are...
This is part of a #selflove series here and at

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